Honesty

I WROTE THIS POST A YEAR AGO...

how to you feel about liars?


How about people who always tell the truth?

And people who are radically honest?

I was having a conversation yesterday about lying. Seems like we all do it, yet it's so considered to be such a no-no. What an intersting thing to think about...


There are many people who lie because they believe they are saving another from being hurt. Yet look deeper, who are you really lying to?... Yourself. Others have the choice on how they will feel about your lies, but really that's another dicussion. You have the choice on telling the truth or lying. So why is it so ez to lie? You want to know the truth? Because most of us are so dishonest with ourselves that we lie to protect ourselves, from what? From ourselves really. From those secrets we've been hiding away, those things we judge ourselves about & lie about them so others wont know & they can't judge us if they dont know right.

So what's the truth, how do you speak the truth, and what's the difference between telling the truth and radical honesty?

The truth is what is in your gut, that peaceful still voice within you that most of us are too busy rushing through life to ever listen to.

Speaking the truth is easy, just say what you know. But wait, one persons truth is not true for all others. This is where radical honesty comes in. Lets take an example.

Charlie tells Joan that he doesn't like Joan's best friend Shelly. Shelly likes Charlie & has had heart ache after heart ache, she wants Joan to set her up with Charlie. what is Joan to do???

Lie - Try to convince Charlie or Joan that they should feel differently, or tell them lies about each other to try to change there minds... you know what it is to lie, there are lots of ways to do this

-OR-

tell the truth - Tell Joan that Charlie is not interested & tell Charlie that Joan is interested in him.

now here comes radical honesty.

Sit quiet for a few moments and listen to what your heart/gut/soul has so say.

your inner guidance will only tell you what leads to peace, and whose peace... yours. Others may or may not be at peace with what your soul wants you to do, and that's ok. They need to experience whatever it is for them to finally come to peace, but you can choose it now.

So here I am, this is my lesson to learn & I'm sharing it because I see so many others who are in this situation & I hope to shine some light.

I have a situation happening for me that is reaccuring, where I've chosen in the past to not be radically honest 100% of the time, thinking it would be best, just keep the "peace" just please others... thinking the situation would just resolve itself, and everytime it just gets a little harder to deal with. I'm back here again, and now I choose to follow what I'm feeling in my soul.

What's happened so far, i'm feeling inspired to do things I've always wanted to do but never did, mostly because I was too busy doing for others - pleasing everyone else.

Is radical honesty easy, yes & no. The peace that comes is easy, and feels good, while being in the situation sometimes it's not so ez - when i'm only looking at it from a limited judging perspective.


I'm grateful for Maureen's wisdom.